AITA for encouraging good grammar for my wife?

AITA for encouraging good grammar for my wife? I’m a 26-year-old who grew up in the South with my wife, and we both moved to a big city for high-paying tech jobs. We’ve managed to reinvent ourselves and adapt to our new, more polished surroundings.

While I’ve successfully masked my Southern accent and refined my grammar, my wife hasn’t had the same success. Her accent and grammar quirks, like saying “good” instead of “well” and using expressions like “y’all” and “howdy,” have become a source of embarrassment, especially after a recent awkward dinner with our VP.

After overhearing my coworkers’ subtle jokes and noticing their discomfort around her, I started to feel anxious about her public speaking. I wanted her to fit in better with our colleagues, so I took a drastic step.

While she was ill one night, I discovered her Reddit account and decided to use it to push her towards better grammar. I created several fake profiles to comment on her posts, making disparaging remarks about her grammar and insinuating that her Southern roots were holding her back.

She’s been noticeably upset by these anonymous comments, and her mood has soured at work, affecting both of our productivity. Despite this, her grammar has slightly improved, and our coworkers seem less critical.

I’m conflicted about whether I should come clean about my actions. Should I confess and risk breaking her trust, or continue with my anonymous campaign to help her fit in better? Am I the asshole for taking such extreme measures to “improve” my wife’s social image?

Edit: I love my wife dearly and always have, but her accent and grammar only became an issue after we moved. If you’re questioning why I married her if I disliked these traits, remember that they were part of who we were when we met. My intention was never to hurt her but to help her adapt to our new environment.

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I’m a 26-year-old who moved from the South to a big city with my wife for high-profile tech jobs. While I’ve managed to blend in with my new, sophisticated crowd, my wife hasn’t quite adjusted. Her Southern accent and grammatical quirks Like using “good” instead of “well” and saying “y’all” have become a source of embarrassment, especially after an awkward dinner with our VP.

Feeling anxious about how her speech affects our social standing, I took a drastic step. When she was unwell one night, I found her Reddit account and created multiple fake profiles to leave critical comments about her grammar, hoping to push her towards improvement. She’s now upset and our work life is suffering, but her grammar has slightly improved and our colleagues seem more accepting.

I’m torn between confessing my actions and risking our trust or continuing my anonymous campaign. Am I the asshole for taking such extreme measures to help my wife fit in better?

Edit: I love my wife and always have, but her accent and grammar became a concern only after our move. I never intended to hurt her, just to help her adapt to our new environment.