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Emily (28F) and I have been best friends since we were kids. We’ve been through everything together. Recently, she got engaged to Mark (30M), and they have a 2-year-old son named Jack. Mark believes Jack is his biological son. A week before the wedding, I found myself in a very tough spot.
AITA for Telling My Best Friend’s Fiancé Their Child?
About a month ago, during a night out, Emily got a bit tipsy and told me something shocking: Jack isn’t Mark’s child. She had a short affair with someone else around the time she got pregnant but decided to keep it a secret. I was shocked and didn’t know what to do with this information. It weighed on me every day.
As the wedding got closer, I couldn’t shake the feeling that Mark deserved to know the truth before making such a big commitment. I felt torn between loyalty to Emily and doing what seemed right. Eventually, I decided to tell Mark. I met with him in private and explained everything. As expected, he was heartbroken. He confronted Emily, and everything exploded. They called off the wedding and are now separated.
Emily is extremely angry with me. She says I lied to ruin her happiness and even accused me of being secretly in love with Mark and wanting to break them up. That’s completely untrue, but our friendship is now in tatters. Some of our mutual friends are also upset with me, saying I should have stayed out of it.
I honestly thought I was doing the right thing by telling Mark the truth, but now I’m full of doubt. Did I overstep by revealing Emily’s secret, or should I have stayed silent and let them get married?
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Thanks for telling him, I wish more people would act like you. You saved him from living a lie and the devastating financial consequences of a divorce, and I hope he thanked you.
NTA. Mark deserved to know the truth about his paternity before making a lifelong commitment. Your conscience was burdened by knowing the truth and withholding it. You felt a moral obligation to be honest, even if it was difficult.
TaylorMade2566 writes:
I don’t believe in staying out of things in regards to infidelity, abuse or paternity. Your “friend” was a lying, manipulative beast and what she was doing was evil. You don’t lie to the person you’re supposed to love the most and then blame someone else for letting that person know about your lies. Obviously it was eating at her if she told you about it, she just thought wrong that you would be loyal to her and not be decent. If anyone takes her side, cut them out of your life just like I hope you have done to Emily and NTA
You were faced with a moral dilemma of whether to disclose crucial information to Mark, who was about to marry Emily under false pretenses. Keeping such a significant secret could have led to a lifetime of deceit and potential heartbreak for Mark. By telling him the truth, you acted in what you believed was his best interest, even though it caused fallout in your friendship with Emily.
