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AITA for Refusing to Let My Unemployed Boyfriend Move Into My Condo? In a tough relationship situation, a 30-year-old woman is facing criticism from her 27-year-old boyfriend for not letting him move into her condo. The couple has had an on-again, off-again relationship for nearly three years. Despite their feelings for each other, the woman feels the relationship isn’t working. She owns her condo and wants a partner who contributes equally.
Her boyfriend, currently unemployed and living rent-free with his brother, has struggled to keep a job and improve his situation. He has been unsuccessful in finding stable work and has faced repeated rejections in his attempts to join the military.
Adding to the strain, the boyfriend’s cat has feline leukemia and cannot be adopted by the woman due to the risk it poses to her own pets. The boyfriend has threatened to rehome the cat if she doesn’t agree to let him move in. He argues that if she can’t support him now, she doesn’t deserve him later.
The woman is questioning if she’s wrong for setting boundaries and refusing to let her boyfriend move in without him contributing or showing responsibility. Despite her feelings for him, she is firm in her belief that a partnership should involve equal contributions and responsibilities.
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A 30-year-old woman is criticized by her 27-year-old boyfriend for refusing to let him move into her condo. They have had an on-again, off-again relationship for nearly three years, and she feels it’s not working. She wants a partner who contributes equally but her boyfriend, currently unemployed and living rent-free with his brother, has struggled with job stability and has faced repeated rejections in his attempts to join the military.
Complicating matters, his cat has feline leukemia and cannot be adopted by the woman due to risks to her own pets. He has threatened to rehome the cat if she doesn’t agree to let him move in, arguing that if she can’t support him now, she doesn’t deserve him later. The woman is questioning whether she is wrong for setting boundaries and demanding equal contribution in the relationship.
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Absolutely NTA. I think you already know that. He has absolutely shown how he will act under your roof. He won’t work, and he won’t put in any effort to even clean up after himself. It would be like adopting a toddler that you can’t you can’t discipline. That is why he is homeless in the first place.
Maybe I misread the post, but I believe you said that you are questioning the whole relationship in the first place. You definitely don’t want to get into a situation where you have to go through evicting him legally. He will make your life a living h**l and draw it out as long as possible.
Take a second look at the last place he lived. Ask yourself if it is worth the chance they moved because it was the easier option. There are plenty of stories on here where people moved (and even sold the house) because it was easier than getting rid of the roommate.
Err… what peak? He’s given zero indication of having the skills, intention or dedication to becoming a functioning adult who takes care of his responsibilities, never mind reaching any ‘peak’.
He’s an almost 30 year old manipulative mooch with no shame.
NTA. Forget moving in, time for you to move one. Forever.
Plot twist: This is his peak.
NTA. Protect yourself.
My boyfriend and his cat are now living with his brother and his wife while not contributing to bills.
NTA. He will treat you the same way he’s treating his brother and sil.
Beware the significant other who can’t hold down a job or be a responsible adult. I have no idea why you “feel safe” with this person. He isn’t a safe, he’s a massive financial risk in every sense. He isn’t looking to improve his situation either…except to move in with you.
Absolutely NTA. I think you already know that. He has absolutely shown how he will act under your roof. He won’t work, and he won’t put in any effort to even clean up after himself. It would be like adopting a toddler that you can’t you can’t discipline. That is why he is homeless in the first place.
Maybe I misread the post, but I believe you said that you are questioning the whole relationship in the first place. You definitely don’t want to get into a situation where you have to go through evicting him legally. He will make your life a living h**l and draw it out as long as possible.
Take a second look at the last place he lived. Ask yourself if it is worth the chance they moved because it was the easier option. There are plenty of stories on here where people moved (and even sold the house) because it was easier than getting rid of the roommate.
