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AITA for How I Dealt with Pregnancy Rumors at the Office? A restaurant server and supervisor, 11 weeks and 5 days pregnant, is dealing with unexpected workplace drama and rumors about her pregnancy. After a miscarriage in September, she had planned to share the good news after her 12-week scan. But things took a turn when her coworker, Bailey, spread the rumor to another colleague, Lisa, who then told the manager and a mutual friend.
The server is upset that the rumor spread without her saying anything. She’s especially bothered that neither Bailey nor Lisa talked to her directly. Lisa, who claims to hate gossip, still chose to share the rumor with others instead of speaking with her.
She’s thinking about sending messages to Bailey and Lisa to let them know how she feels and to ask them not to talk about her pregnancy until she announces it. She worries that the gossip might spoil the joy of her planned announcement and mess up her careful approach, especially after her past miscarriage.
Now, she’s stuck. Should she address the gossip directly, or wait until she’s ready to share the news on her terms? Her main goal is to handle this delicately, keep her privacy, and make sure her announcement is special.
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Don’t engage. Keep to yourself and stay out of pointless work drama. If you’re being discriminated against because of the pregnancy that’s one thing to bring up with your manager. Other than that, stay in your lane and keep your stress levels down.
Edit: Not to mention, you say you are a supervisor, and thus professionally above all the servers gossiping. Professionally: stay out of it.
Substantial-Flan-632 writes:
I’d leave it alone – sounds like high school drama. It’s not anyone’s business at work anyway, except for the manager when the time comes. I’d have fun with it and when my shift was over, make something that looks like a cocktail (but isn’t) and drink it quite publicly. Ask Bailey if she’d like one too. If she doesn’t accept it, whisper: why? are you pregnant? Then a long stare at her… and then walk away. lol These are a bunch of young, silly girls with nothing more interesting to talk about.
DeepElderberry976 writes:
There were two coworkers I couldn’t stand that guessed that I was pregnant. I had already told my manager and another coworker when they started asking why I hadn’t told them “the news.” I simply ignored them. It’s your news to share with whoever you like and you don’t have to discuss it with anyone else. I was already 4 months pregnant and very much showing and it still was none of their business.
There is no “right” answer here, but you can bet almost 100% that if you send the message, Baily and Lisa are not going to keep it to themselves.
If it were me, I would go to management either way and let them know about what’s going on, and that it’s making you uncomfortable.
