AITA for Banning My Daughter from Her Sister’s Wedding Over Her Emo Outfit?

AITA for Banning My Daughter from Her Sister Wedding Over Her Emo Outfit? I have two daughters, Ashley (26) and Alex (15). They haven’t always gotten along well because of their age difference, but they’ve been getting closer lately. Ashley even asked Alex to help plan her wedding, which was nice of her.

Yesterday was the wedding, and the dress code was formal. We both got long dresses for the event. Alex chose a sage green dress, but she made some big changes: she added a large slit up to her thigh and wore a skull necklace, punk boots, and dark makeup.

I asked her to take off the jewelry and let me fix the slit so it wasn’t so high. Alex argued that her outfit was fine and fit the dress code. I said she needed to change because she would stand out too much. When she refused, I told her she couldn’t go to the wedding. She still refused, so she missed the event.

Ashley was okay with her sister missing the wedding, but my husband was angry with me and called me a jerk. Alex is not talking to me now.

I brought up the issue early in the day when Ashley was still getting ready. We talked about it, and Ashley agreed it was best for Alex to change her outfit. I also texted Alex, saying I’d pick her up if she changed into something more appropriate, but she didn’t reply.

I don’t mind Alex expressing herself, and she had told me about her plans for the dress and makeup. But on the day of the wedding, the slit was so high it showed her underwear when she walked, and the jewelry was very big. I thought it wasn’t right for the event. Ashley was okay with Alex missing the wedding rather than wearing that outfit, so it made the decision easier for me.

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I have two daughters, Ashley (26) and Alex (15). They’ve had their differences because of their age gap, but they’ve been getting along better lately. Ashley even asked Alex to help with her wedding, which was really kind.

Yesterday was the wedding, and the dress code was formal. We both got long dresses for the event. Alex chose a sage green dress, which seemed fine at first. But when she showed me, she had made big changes: the dress had a large slit up to her thigh, and she wore a skull necklace, punk rock boots, and dark makeup.

I asked her to take off the jewelry and let me fix the slit to make it shorter. Alex argued that her outfit was okay and fit the dress code. I said she needed to change because it was too flashy. When she refused, I told her she couldn’t go to the wedding. She still refused and missed the event.

Ashley was okay with her sister not being there, but my husband was very upset with me and called me a jerk. Alex is not talking to me now.

To explain, I brought up the issue early when Ashley was still getting ready. We talked about it, and Ashley agreed it was best for Alex to change her outfit. I also texted Alex offering to pick her up if she changed into something more appropriate, but she didn’t reply.

I’m okay with Alex expressing herself, and she had told me about her plans for the dress and makeup. But on the day of the wedding, the slit was so high it showed her underwear when she walked, and the jewelry was very big. I felt it wasn’t right for the occasion. Since Ashley was fine with Alex missing the wedding rather than wearing that outfit, I decided not to let her attend.

Melon_Science Writes:

NTA, it was attention seeking (even if that is her style) a wedding/formal event is not a time and place to express yourself. You were looking out for the bride/your daughter.

Odd_Business5830 writes:

NTA. If the bride didn’t want her there looking like that either why is everyone saying it’s your fault? Yeah, maybe you could’ve compromised on smaller jewelry or something, but I don’t think not letting your fifteen-year-old show a whole wedding her underwear because her dress is slit up so high makes you the bad guy

sirdabs456 writes:

NTA. You said that both her outfit and makeup were discussed prior and deemed acceptable. Then on the day of she modified her makeup and outfit to extremes.( I mean a slit so high you can see her underwear?) JFC that’s attention seeking if not downright malicious. Also most importantly the bride is glad you made this decision. The consequences might be tough to deal with but you did the right thing

People are missing where OP says her daughter who is getting married wouldn’t want her dressed up like that at her wedding either. Her youngest daughter was attention seeking.