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I recently endured a 42-hour labor induction that ended in an emergency C-section when my baby’s heart rate began to drop. It was a tough experience, leaving me in a lot of pain, numbness, and a deep sense of disappointment because I had really hoped for a natural birth.
AITA for Venting All My Emotions on My Husband?
The aftermath has been overwhelming. I’ve felt confined by all the medical equipment, upset that I wasn’t the first to see my baby, and embarrassed by my lack of control over my own body. It’s been a struggle to cope, and I’ve been on edge, snapping out of frustration because everything feels so beyond my control.
My husband has been amazing in handling the paperwork, taking care of me, and working while exhausted. But today, after days of listening to me vent, he gently asked me to stop, saying I wasn’t being fair, and then gave me the silent treatment. It stung because I just wanted him to hear me out, to let me release all the emotions building up inside.
I know he’s exhausted too, hasn’t slept properly in days, and is carrying a lot on his shoulders. And I realize I’m not easy to be around right now. I’m a first-time mom, trying to figure out this new life, and all I feel capable of is changing diapers and feeding my baby. I’m caught between loving him for everything he’s done and feeling hurt that he couldn’t extend more patience and understanding when I needed it the most.
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Soft YTA.
There’s only so much he can take. His kid almost died. His wife is a mess and had a rough delivery. He still has to work. Probably also has to deal with family members calling.
A lot of people don’t realise it, but partners witnessing a traumatic birth are at risk of PTSD, as is the person actually giving birth.
The birth partner will experience moments of feeling out of control during a life threatening situation. No, it’s not physically as bad as actually being operated on in an emegency, but it’s still highly stressful and difficult to deal with emotionally.
There may have been a point where OPs husband genuinely believed that he was going to be holding a double funeral for both his wife and his child. That’s scary and traumatising. I understand OP needs to rant, but she needs to understand that her husband needs and deserves grace too.
So_Much_Angry01 writes:This! My first labor I almost died and so did baby and weeks later my husband said “I know it sounds selfish but there was a moment that I realized the best day of my life almost turned out to be my worst because I almost walked out of the hospital without our son AND you.” I hadn’t even thought about how traumatic it was to watch his little family almost leave him. Yea he didn’t almost die but it was still alot to witness
roadtohealthy writes:Sharing your emotions is one thing and using your partner as a punching bag is another. It is hard for anyone to turn the other cheek when being yelled at even if they know the person yelling is post partum. Be gentle with both yourself AND your husband. You are both exhausted and dealing with a big life change. See a counsellor if you need to vent. Gentle YTA
