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In this scenario, a 37-year-old woman (OP) is facing an issue with a family routine that has taken an uncomfortable turn. Her husband has been brushing her daughters’ hair after bath time, using a tangle teaser to manage their frizzy Irish hair. This ritual, which also includes occasionally brushing OP’s hair, has become a comforting family tradition.
AITA for Wanting to Stop My Husband Hair-Brushing Ritual with My Sister?
However, OP’s sister, Jess, has recently joined in on this routine. After experiencing the hair care method, Jess began regularly asking OP’s husband to brush her hair as well. What started as an occasional favor for special events gradually turned into a frequent request, without any explicit permission or arrangement.
This has led to discomfort for OP, who feels that her husband’s time and effort are being taken advantage of. Additionally, it has sparked awkward conversations within the family, especially since Jess described the hair-brushing sessions as “intimate.”
Now, OP wants to put an end to this situation. She feels that her Saturday nights and family dynamics are being disrupted, and she’s tired of the jokes circulating within the family about the ‘intimate brushing’ sessions. OP wants to return to a sense of normalcy, with her husband’s hair-brushing duties confined to their immediate family.
Considering whether OP would be the asshole (WIBTA) for ending this arrangement, it’s essential to understand her perspective. She never intended for her husband to become a hairdresser for her sister, and the situation has evolved beyond her comfort level. Given the personal nature of hair care and the boundaries it involves, it’s reasonable for OP to want to reclaim her family’s private routine.
To resolve this issue respectfully, OP needs to communicate openly and honestly with her husband and sister about her feelings and boundaries. Establishing clear limits and possibly suggesting alternative solutions for Jess’s hair care needs, such as recommending affordable hair care products or occasional professional treatments, could help maintain family harmony while respecting everyone’s comfort levels.
In this context, OP wouldn’t be considered the asshole for wanting to stop her husband from brushing her sister’s hair, as long as it’s handled with sensitivity and clear communication.
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wildferalfun writes:
NTA … and woah what a weird situation. Your husband has to feel uncomfortable at this point to. Also the fact that she used the word intimate is sus. I would absolutely put a stop to that it would make me soooo uncomfortable
Is your husband mad at you for wanting him to stop?
Princesssassafras writes:
I’d recommend silk bonnets. It keeps the frizz down and makes the hair softer. They’ve helped my hair so much.
I also use bonnet towels, not the twisty ones, It’s the same type as a silk one, just different materials . They’re amazing. They’re also inexpensive and just help anyone with long drippy hair.
Both hair products are incredibly affordable ($5, $10) and have dramatically improved my hair when used along side Curly Girl. My frizz is pretty much gone.
Yea, there has got to be a better way. Also make sure that you’re going to a hair stylist who knows how to cut curly hair – they should also be able to cut out some very strategic layers to help with the weight and the curling/matting.di_caro2811 writes:
YWNBTA. Jess has been inconsiderate and then threw in the word “intimate”. She won’t actually be surprised or wonder why when you tell her it has to stop.
NTA – the fact that none of you have the patience to do your own hair means that very few of you should have nice hair. Your husband choosing to make an effort to sort this out for your kids and yourself is sweet of him, but it doesn’t entitle the rest of your family to his time or attention, especially if he finds it a bit weird.
