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My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. We met through mutual friends while I was still in school, and he had just moved to my town for college. We were friends for 2 years before we started dating because I was too scared to make a move, and he had feelings for one of our mutual friends.
After she got a boyfriend, he shifted his feelings to me, and we have been together ever since.
Last Saturday was his birthday, and he mentioned he had never had a surprise party and wanted to experience one.
I spent the entire week before his birthday planning everything: inviting people, making reservations, buying a cake, and so on. I asked his best friend to keep him occupied for most of the day so I could set up and get everyone to hide for the surprise. The party was a success, and he was smiling the whole time.
Later, he sneaked off with his best friend, and I wanted to find him so we could sing happy birthday and cut the cake. As I walked down the hallway, I overheard them talking and kept moving towards their voices. I heard him telling his friend that he should have kept pursuing our mutual friend and wished he was the one engaged to her instead of her current fiancé.
He said he hated waking up to me and wished our mutual friend had thrown him his first surprise party. He felt disgusted every time he kissed or held me because he believed our mutual friend should be in his arms instead.
He said he felt trapped in our relationship and feared he would end up “having” to marry me. He also mentioned that our mutual friend was more attractive than me in every way and called her “the most gorgeous girl I’ve ever seen.”
I went back to the party and told everyone I couldn’t find him, so we had to wait for him to return. When he came back, he hugged and kissed me on the head, saying he loved me.
I didn’t want to ruin his party, so I went along with it. He doesn’t know that I overheard him. I’ve just been pretending everything is fine. I don’t want to break up with him; I just want to know how I can make him fall in love with me.
I don’t know what I did to make him so unhappy, so I want to know how to make him fall in love with me or if I should give up on our relationship. He is my first boyfriend, and I’m scared to start dating again at my age.
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For eight years, my boyfriend and I have shared a deep connection that began during my school days and his college years. We evolved from friends into partners after two years of mutual admiration and unspoken feelings. Despite his initial affection for one another, our bond strengthened, and we’ve been together ever since.
Recently, I organized a surprise birthday party for hiim first in his life, which he had always wanted. I dedicated an entire week to meticulous planning, from arranging the guest list to setting up the party. I enlisted his best friend to ensure he was out of the house, so everything could be perfectly arranged. The surprise was a success, and his joy was evident throughout the celebration.
However, as the party progressed, I overheard a conversation that shattered my heart. He expressed regret over not pursuing our mutual friend, revealing that he resented waking up next to me and felt our relationship was a mistake. He voiced a desire for a surprise party from our mutual friend rather than from me, and he even criticized our relationship and my appearance.
Despite his outward affection when he returned to the party, my heart sank knowing the truth of his feelings. I’ve been hiding my hurt, but now I’m at a crossroads. I want to rekindle his love for me or understand if it’s time to let go. The thought of starting over is daunting, especially since he is my first love, and the fear of dating again at my age is overwhelming.
I need guidance on how to address these feelings and decide the best path forward in our relationship.
Shit they wouldn’t think it let alone speak it. This really breaks my heart for her but i hope she has the strength and self respect to leave his sorry ass. He is seriously sick in the head. Who lives a complete lie for 8 YEARS and they’re literally repulsed by their partner but lie and smile in their face? Wtf..
Yeah, 25 is so young! Dating sucks, but I thinks that’s true at any age. I met my wonderful husband at 30, and plenty of folks meet their partners later than that! Not a good reason to stay with someone who’s not 100% in it.
Start dating at your age? Dude you’re 25, you have your whole life in front of you. Why tf would you waste it on a person who disrespects you to such a degree. Wtf. Why do you want to make him fall in love with you when he said that he felt disgusted after having kissed you. No offence and im saying this with all the love in my heart but do you have any self respect? Leave that man, very obviously!
Although he didn’t tell you; never let a man tell you twice that he doesn’t want you. If you try to force this relationship he is going to start resenting you because he feels stuck with you. You seem like a wonderful person and you deserve much better than this guy. Cut your emotional losses and move on. It may hurt for a while , but you’ll get thru this.
