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AITA for Yelling at My Mom After She Ignored My Dairy Intolerance? I’m a 20-year-old woman who recently became lactose intolerant, which means I can’t handle dairy anymore. I’m not sure if it’s from food poisoning or if it just developed on its own, but I get sick from eating dairy now.
My mom, who’s 54, knows I’ve never liked dairy much, so when I told her about my intolerance, she thought I was lying to avoid cheese.
A few days ago, my mom made lasagna and told me she used lactose-free cheese, so I ate a full plate. But halfway through, I had to rush to the bathroom because I felt so sick.
My mom then said I’m just not used to dairy anymore and that I should eat more of it to build tolerance. I got really angry and yelled at her, and my sister, who’s 22, said I was being dramatic.
I feel bad for screaming, but I’m also upset that my mom didn’t take my intolerance seriously. Now, I’m unsure if I can trust her when it comes to food. Am I the asshole?
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I’m 20 and recently became lactose intolerant, which means dairy messes with my stomach. My mom, who’s 54, knows I’ve never been a fan of dairy, so when I told her about this intolerance, she thought I was just trying to avoid cheese.
The other day, she made lasagna and assured me she used lactose-free cheese, so I dug in. But halfway through, I got super sick and had to rush to the bathroom.
My mom then suggested I just need to eat more dairy to “get used to it.” I got really upset and yelled at her. My sister, who’s 22, called me dramatic, and I stormed off.
Now I’m feeling torn. I know yelling wasn’t the best reaction, but I’m also hurt that my mom didn’t take my condition seriously.
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NTA, have you been tested for lactose intolerance? Or do you have a dairy allergy? The 2 are different. The only reason I ask this is because cheese has minimal lactose compared to milk, cream etc. Many people who are lactose intolerant (me included) can eat certain cheeses but if cheese is triggering your body that much that fast I would wonder if it is a lactose…
I think OP should go full NC with her mom after that stunt.
Deliberately causing her adult daughter intense suffering, and then doubling down on it rather than apologizing for causing so much pain.
NTA. She lied about what she fed you. Full stop. YOU experienced pain and distress. Here’s the thing, it’s YOUR decision whether the lasagna is worth the pain or not. You decided no, SHE decided FOR you. Yelling at her is the LEAST of what I would do and, no, you CAN’T trust her at this point.
She deliberately fed you food that would hurt you, thinking that she knew better than you. She didn’t try to convince you, she just flat-out lied and snuck it to you knowing you’d be in intense pain. NTA in the slightest. Not remotely.
Go see a doctor to find out how you can avoid future issues by maybe taking lactaid or something, but regardless, never trust her with food. I’d be cautious about medicine too as she’s so cavalier about your well-being.
NTA Your screaming was a cry for help. Unfortunately. Your family don’t love you and lie to you and endanger your health. Hopefully you will be able to leave home and never eat their food again. Just hold on and never trust them again.
NTA. It isn’t just needing to poop it is PAIN, cramps and vomiting. Soft cheese is worse then hard cheese (just a FYI) if you find you can have a SMALL amount of cheddar but not ricotta.
Also for those suggesting lactaid, that doesn’t always work. For my son he will VOMIT if he consumes any lactaid products. I don’t know why, his dr says he might lean more towards allergy but he hears the exact same thing from about a quarter of his lactose intolerant patients (although not positive on the allergy test) but lactaid doesn’t always work, sometimes makes the problem worse and ITS EXPENSIVE so you “save it” for important times
