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AITA for Threatening to Quit My Job Because My Wife Randomly Quit Hers? In this situation, a 35-year-old husband feels frustrated and neglected after his 33-year-old wife suddenly left her job following an inheritance from her late father. This inheritance includes a rental property and a substantial monthly trust payout, which far exceeds their living expenses. Despite their finances being combined in a joint account, the wife has kept her inheritance funds in separate personal accounts and has stopped contributing to household expenses, except for occasional takeout meals.
The husband, who manages properties in North Dakota and dislikes his job, feels burdened with all financial responsibilities. He is particularly upset because his wife, who previously worked in accounts payable, quit her job because she no longer felt the need to work due to her new financial security. This decision has intensified his frustration, especially since he now has to cover all mortgage payments and other household costs.
Their disagreements escalated to the point where the husband threatened to quit his job in protest. He feels that if his wife can leave her job because of her inheritance, he should also have the option to stop working. He questions the fairness of her financial decisions, including buying a luxury car and dining out frequently, which has led to health issues for him due to dietary restrictions.
The wife defends her actions by saying that her inheritance is separate and meant for her and their children’s benefit, not for shared expenses. She believes that her occasional contributions, like buying takeout, are sufficient to cover their living expenses and dismisses his concerns about future financial needs such as home maintenance or upgrades.
In summary, the husband feels overlooked and financially strained despite covering household expenses and adjusting to his wife’s new lifestyle. He sees her actions as selfish and struggles with the financial imbalance, leading to tension and threats of quitting his job as a way to express his dissatisfaction.
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NTA. Does your wife expect you to pay the full mortgage because that is joint property and she doesn’t feel she needs to put her money to joint property. Did a read that right? Inheritance is separate property and yes legally you don’t have a right to that. If she is going to be that stingy I would start putting all my money in a separate account so that you can control how your salary is spent. And if she’s that transactional with her spouse maybe I’d just look into getting a divorce so that she can Scrooge McDuck all on her own.
Do not quit your job out of spite. That would be dumb. You should immediately create your own account and have all your checks deposited in that account….no more joint account at all! Then decide if you still want to be with her or not. If you do stay then split all bills as evenly as you can. But don’t be surprised when she decides she wants to run off with her new money.
I think the real question is does your wife still want to be married.
If it was me getting that kind of money I would want to make life easy for my whole family. At the very least she should contribute funds equal to income, meaning she should be paying far more of the household expenses relative to annual income. B
Frazzledragon writes:
So, she wants the “joint” expenses to be fully paid from the “joint” account, which you are paying into, while the 6000 in rent payments goes to her private account?
Sounds to me like that should count as joint income, while the trust fund’s monthly payment remain inheritance territory.
So, probably NTA, because I think you are getting the short end of the stick here.
BlueGreen_1956 writes:
NTA
The inheritance showed you your wife’s true colors.
Divorce her and let her enjoy the money.
You will be rid of her and your resentment.
