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AITA for Threatening to Quit My Job After My Wife Abruptly Quit Hers? I’m a 35-year-old guy, and my wife (33F) recently inherited a large sum of money and a mortgage-free house from her late father. She made it clear that the money is meant for her and our kids, not for me.
I make $52k a year in a property management job I hate, while my wife used to work as an accounts payable clerk making $32k. She quit her job after the inheritance, saying she wants to pursue photography but doesn’t want to earn money from it
She now collects $6,000 a month from renting out the inherited house and $15k a month from a trust, totaling $252,000 a year.
My issue is that she keeps all this money in her accounts and expects me to continue paying for our mortgage and other household expenses from my salary. She even rented a BMW and orders takeout every day, which isn’t great for my high cholesterol
When I confronted her, she argued that since she was buying the food, I should cover the rest. I threatened to quit my job too, but she insisted that I should still pay for our shared expenses because I benefit from them too.
AITA for being frustrated with how she’s handling her inheritance and expecting me to shoulder the financial burden?
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I’m 35, and my wife, who’s 33, inherited a lot of money and a house from her late dad. She said the money is just for her and our kids, not for me.
I earn $52k a year doing a job I dislike, while she used to make $32k as an accounts payable clerk. After getting the inheritance, she quit her job to pursue photography, but she doesn’t want to make money from it. Now she makes $6,000 a month from renting out the house and $15k a month from a trust, totaling $252,000 a year.
The problem is she keeps all this money to herself and expects me to pay for the mortgage and other bills with my salary. She even rented a BMW and orders takeout every day, which isn’t good for my high cholesterol. When I brought this up, she said since she’s buying the food, I should cover the rest. I threatened to quit my job too, but she thinks I should still pay for our expenses because I benefit from them.
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NTA. Does your wife expect you to pay the full mortgage because that is joint property and she doesn’t feel she needs to put her money to joint property. Did a read that right? Inheritance is separate property and yes legally you don’t have a right to that. If she is going to be that stingy I would start putting all my money in a separate account so that you can control how your salary is spent. And if she’s that transactional with her spouse maybe I’d just look into getting a divorce so that she can Scrooge McDuck all on her own.
Do not quit your job out of spite. That would be dumb. You should immediately create your own account and have all your checks deposited in that account….no more joint account at all! Then decide if you still want to be with her or not. If you do stay then split all bills as evenly as you can. But don’t be surprised when she decides she wants to run off with her new money.
I think the real question is does your wife still want to be married.
If it was me getting that kind of money I would want to make life easy for my whole family. At the very least she should contribute funds equal to income, meaning she should be paying far more of the household expenses relative to annual income.
This lady is not on your side
The inheritance showed you your wife’s true colors.
Divorce her and let her enjoy the money.
You will be rid of her and your resentment.
