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AITAH telling girlfriend that she gave me the ick at a family dinner? I’m 32m, dating my girlfriend Jenny, 27f, for almost a year now. We’ve met each other’s colleagues and integrated into each other’s work and social lives. Jenny is an only child from a close-knit family, while I’m the older brother to Anna, 21f. Despite our age gap, Anna and I share a strong bond because our parents’ demanding careers meant I often took care of her during her teenage years.
Recently, I’ve noticed Jenny making snide remarks about Anna, joking that she’s overly spoiled by our parents and me, and calling her a princess. Last week, at a team outing with my coworkers, Jenny seemed to focus excessively on Anna, grilling her about her career, dating life, and plans.
At one point, Anna shared a story about a date where the guy didn’t even offer to split the bill, leaving her to cover the entire meal. Jenny laughed and said, “Not every guy is going to treat you like your brother. You need to lower your standards.” This comment irked me because it implied Anna didn’t deserve basic respect, but I held my tongue to avoid a scene.
Then Jenny added that such a thing would never happen to her because men see her as “high value.” That was my breaking point. I told her she was giving me “the ick” and to stop talking to my sister like that.
The argument we had later that night was intense. Jenny accused me of overreacting to an innocuous comment and even said I’d make a terrible father because I would always favor my sister over everyone else. Being called a ‘terrible father’ hit me hard, and I’m still in shock. I don’t think I was wrong, but I need another opinion.
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I’m 32m, dating Jenny, 27f, for almost a year. We’ve integrated into each other’s work and social lives. Jenny, an only child, often jokes that my sister, Anna, 21f, is spoiled by our parents and me.
Last week, at a team outing with my coworkers, Jenny seemed to focus excessively on Anna, grilling her about her career and dating life. Anna shared a story about a date where the guy didn’t offer to split the bill, leaving her to cover the entire meal. Jenny laughed and said, “Not every guy is going to treat you like your brother. You need to lower your standards.” This comment irked me, but I stayed quiet.
Then Jenny added that such a thing would never happen to her because men see her as “high value.” That was my breaking point. I told her she was giving me “the ick” and to stop talking to my sister like that.
We had a massive argument later. Jenny accused me of overreacting and said I’d make a terrible father because I would always favor my sister. Being called a ‘terrible father’ hit me hard. I don’t think I was wrong, but I need another opinion.
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Interesting_Help_481 Writes:
NTA. If I heard my bf talking about being an alpha high value man, I would run. She disrespected your sister in front of you and double downed. Then blamed and lashed out at you for her mistake. I know people like this, they are users through and through.
Yes everyone has preferences, sure. It’s the insulting your family, doubling down, and when you tried to talk to her about it she blamed it on you.
Is this the first time you noticed this behavior?
Cultural-End-7074 Writes:
NTA. She’s a walking red flag
*Jennifer then went on talk about how that would’ve never happen to her as men see her as “high value”.*
what is this comment ? ewwwwwww
her behavior with your sister is sooo uncalled for, please run, this is not someone who you should settle down with .
Any girl that refers to herself as ‘high value’ in a conversation is an ick. Doing it while letting your younger sibling know it’s because they aren’t ’high value’ is just cruel.
And by the way – no one of real class or substance would ever think that. She’s about as valuable as the gum on the bottom of a shoe!
Look at the people you truly admire in life. They don’t usually go around telling others they’re the winner and that other people aren’t. They’re worth admiring for their actions and words. She doesn’t appear to have done anything that makes her someone of value.
