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Every Mother’s Day, my husband and two teenage sons ask me what I want to do, but they never plan and complain about my choices. I give them ideas, but they always seem bored and rush through the day.
I suggested hiking or pickleball this year, but my husband rolled his eyes and said, “Great. There goes my whole weekend.” Feeling hurt, I decided to stop trying to please them. Instead, I planned a solo camping trip with my dog for Mother’s Day. I’ll enjoy trail running and fishing, which I love.
I told my youngest son about my plans, and he was glad to skip the usual activities. He told my husband, who got very upset and has ignored me ever since.
I’m now wondering if I’m being unfair for wanting to do what I enjoy on Mother’s Day, especially since my family treats it like a burden. I’m even thinking of suggesting they go to a restaurant of their choice in my honor, since that seems to be the only part they like.
Am I wrong for wanting to spend Mother’s Day on my own?
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AITA for Skipping Mothers Day with My Family to Go Camping Alone?
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Every Mother’s Day, my husband and teenage sons ask me what I want to do, but they never plan and complain about my choices. When I suggested hiking or pickleball this year, my husband rolled his eyes and complained.
Feeling hurt, I decided to go camping alone with my dog for Mother’s Day instead. I’ll be enjoying trail running and fishing, which I love. My youngest son was happy to skip the usual activities and told my husband about my plans. My husband got very upset and has been ignoring me since.
Now, I’m wondering if I’m wrong for wanting to spend Mother’s Day doing something I enjoy when my family treats it like a burden. Should I let them go to a restaurant of their choice in my honor instead?
Am I wrong for choosing to go camping alone?
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NTA
You should tell them this. Send them a link to your post or write a letter. They should know how they make you feel and the reason you’re going away. Sure it won’t be fun to drop that bomb on them but it’s way past time to bring them to reality. Your husband especially. He’s old enough to know better.
Husband is upset anyway. You might as well give him the news and let him brew over the weekend. Kids are probably just dumb. If you don’t tell/show them what is expected/wanted how the hell would they know? Maybe they can figure it out but are their parents really showing them that they should try? You’re silent about it. Husband is modeling the opposite behavior alltogether.
Just blow shit up and go camping
NTA of course. It’s your day. Make it what you want.
But, I get the impression that you’re married to a well poisoner. Your husband sounds like a real peach! Is he always this dickish?
I respectfully put forth that your husband is the asshole and that he’s turned your sons into assholes. You may have time to save the sons from the influence of old Paps, but maybe you’re just over it. In which case, warn them that girls they want to date may not be so accommodating of their dickish behavior like you are to their dads behavior, and if they want to practice some love and empathy…now would be a great time to build up those habits.
NTA. You have a husband problem. Your teenage sons have seen how he treats you, not to mention they’re in their prime of “why do I want to hang out with my mom/dad/parents?”
Your sons are exhibiting semi “normal” teenage behavior but also behavior taught to them. If your husband is so petty he has to sulk, let him. Don’t let it ruin YOUR plans to treat yourself and relax.
Maybe before you leave you can even find a way to express how his behavior is unloving and he can think on it.
NTA I commented on a post yesterday from a husband low on funds looking for Mother’s Day gift ideas. My comment was about removing the mental load from the mom for the day- I literally would give anything to NOT have to make the plans or decide what to do or where to eat, to not have to listen to who doesn’t like what I picked, to not have find everyone’s stuff or get kids dressed or whatever.
I commend you for realizing the only way to truly celebrate you is to do it yourself! Enjoy the peace and quiet!
My kids did that years ago and I let them have it, plus I did nothing for them for a week. They have never repeated it again. I told my husband & kids I wanted a day to garden by myself , but I expected breakfast or a dinner.
