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A person is wondering if they are wrong for wanting to postpone their wedding until their fiancé’s braces are removed. The fiancé, 25, was initially hesitant about getting braces due to fear of teasing but agreed to them for dental health reasons.
The person now wants to delay the wedding because they think the braces will make the wedding photos look bad. They suggested invisible braces, but the fiancé chose traditional braces to save money for the wedding and honeymoon.
The person says they are not ashamed of their fiancé but want the best photos. This request upset the fiancé, who accused them of being shallow and threatened to call off the wedding if it was postponed.
From an outside view, focusing on how the photos look rather than supporting the fiancé’s choice can seem insensitive. The fiancé’s decision to get braces was important for their health and should be supported. The fiancé’s reaction shows they feel hurt and judged.
Overall, while the person may want great photos, insisting on postponing the wedding and suggesting more expensive braces might come off as lacking empathy. It’s important to support each other’s choices and personal growth in a relationship. The person should think carefully about their approach and be more understanding of their fiancé’s feelings.
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I actually agree with you OP so NTA
You’re literally putting all this money and your dreams into the wedding day and if you want to post pone it a little more then yea…. It’s your wedding day and you’re right you do see those photos forever.
Also I can also guarantee your fiancé is going to love it when he doesn’t have a mouth full of braces when he’s kissing his SPOUSE Imagine how nice that smile is going to be. It seems like your fiancé is the one insecure about his teeth and projecting it onto you. Getting your braces off is such an immaculate feeling and then your wedding day coming up? It’s ideal.
Like how much are you willing to push the wedding back? Is it like another month or 4 months down the road? I really don’t see the issue especially if the only thing holding you back is your fianceon moving the date.
Hmm, when I first read this I thought NTA but then again that’s because I would want to postpone myself if I had braces – I don’t care to remember having them, I don’t know about anyone else.
But it sounds like this was something your partner was already insecure about, and moving an already booked wedding day due to braces means having to tell people his wedding is postponed…due to having braces. It draws more attention to the fact he has to wear them and I’m sure that has devastated him.
I think ESH because this could have been a calm discussion instead of blowing up, but I think you should have asked him and made it about how he feels (since if he hates them that much it would make sense for HIM to not want them in the photos). You making that decision for him probably really hurt, but he also could have explained that. You guys should really be able to have this kind of conversation since you’re getting married.
What a dumb hill to die on. He’s fixing his teeth. That shit wasn’t cheap and, as someone that had them, the maintenance is a PitA, they’re uncomfortable, and having them installed takes forever.
So you want to postpone the wedding so that he doesn’t look like crap, OR to have them removed, have your precious picture, and then have him go through with the procedure of reinstalling them?
“he could’ve avoided all this if he got invisible braces”
- That shit’s expensive.
- He could have avoided this by not proposing to a shallow person.
- YTA
Honestly, if he’s happy to go ahead, YTA.
Your wedding isn’t supposed to be a photoshoot, the photos are just supposed to be a reminder of the day, you know? And he DOES have braces right now, and you love him and want to marry him right now – so is it really reasonable to put your lives on hold until you prefer how he looks?
When you’re old and looking back at the pictures, I’m sure a couple of extra years worth of your marriage will seem WAY more valuable than the photos being aesthetically pleasing.
Why not get a photoshoot done once he gets them off so you have some braces-free photos as well?
YTA because you are prioritizing your wedding photos over everything else. Over your fiancee’s feelings, over your marriage, over the wedding itself. If the photos are the most important thing to you, I hope your fiancee reconsiders what he’s getting into.
