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AITA for Letting My Wife Look Confused in Front of Friends? My wife has always had trouble understanding why movies have black bars at the top and bottom of the screen. When we got a new 16:9 TV, I thought this problem was solved. I had spent a lot of time explaining that the bars meant we weren’t missing any of the movies and that stretching the picture would cut off parts of it.
Recently, we had some friends over, including a few of my wife’s teacher friends. The TV was on with “The Hateful Eight,” which has a very wide screen. My wife noticed the black bars and complained that they were cutting off parts of the movie again. Despite her friends trying to explain it, she still didn’t get it. One of them even used paper cutouts to show how different screen sizes work.
When we got home, she was upset with me for not explaining it to her and making her look bad in front of her friends. I reminded her that I had explained this before, but she was still angry. I even covered the sides of the TV with cardboard to show her how it works.
She’s still mad at me, and I’m not sure if I could have handled it better. AITA for not explaining it to her earlier and letting her get upset?
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NTA – uhm OP. If you’re serious about the construction paper thing… I don’t think I need to say more there.
You’ve explained it to her before. I can’t believe I have to say this but if she didn’t get it after the many times you explained that…then I can’t fault you there.
Is she ok…?
My_Poor_Nerves writes:I can’t believe she would persist in needing an explanation to the point of construction paper. I mean, at some point don’t you just live with not getting able to wrap your head around some things and move on with your life? Also, if you think your question makes you look stupid, ask the internet for the answer instead of your friends.
NTA. When people keep forgetting a concept after I’ve explained it multiple times, I deliberately sit back and let others explain it to them. My hope is that if it comes from someone else, maybe that person will explain it better or have more credibility.
NTA. my mother does this and she always has, so it’s not an age thing. i have come to realize that the real issue is not that she doesn’t understand after multiple explanations on whatever the recurring issue is; it’s that she doesnt WANT it to be that way and that’s just her way of complaining. instead of explaining for the millionth time, I just say “sorry that bothers you” and move on.
I work in an animal hospital and have done so for fifteen years. Sometimes I’ve drawn the short straw and had to work holidays when we were closed. I’ve had to explain, over and over and over to my mother that the hospital being closed does not mean there aren’t patients that need care. For ten years I had to repeat myself every time I worked a holiday and for ten years my mother acted like this was the first time I’ve told her. I threw in the towel five years ago. Any time the topic comes up I flat out tell her I’m not explaining this again and forcibly change the subject.
Her refusal to understand simple facts is not on me, your wife’s refusal to do the same isn’t your fault either, NTA.
