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AITA for blowing up on my husband friend after her wife died? You’re 36, and your husband Ian, who is 44, has a close friend named Jenna. They’ve been friends for a long time, even before you and Ian met. You know Jenna but aren’t very close to her.
Jenna’s wife, Laura, passed away suddenly in early March. Laura was ill but was expected to live a few more years.
Since Laura’s death, Jenna has been staying at your house almost every day and sleeping in the guest room because she doesn’t want to be alone. You get that Jenna needs support, but she’s been acting more and more rude and territorial with Ian.
On your birthday weekend, you came home to find Jenna at your house. When you asked Ian about dinner plans, Jenna interrupted and said Ian couldn’t go out because she didn’t want to be alone.
You suggested Jenna could stay at your house while you were out, but she rudely asked if you had any friends to go with instead. This made you upset, and you ended up telling Jenna to leave and not come back.
Ian supported your decision and helped Jenna leave. He said he’d visit her later but agreed with your decision. Now, you feel bad about how things went. You wonder if you should have been more understanding of Jenna’s situation or if she should have treated you with more respect.
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You’re 36, and your husband Ian, who is 44, has a long-time friend named Jenna. They’ve been close even before you met Ian. You know Jenna but aren’t very close with her.
Jenna’s wife, Laura, passed away unexpectedly in March. Since then, Jenna has been staying at your house nearly every day because she doesn’t want to be alone. While you
You’re 36, and your husband Ian, who is 44, has a long-time friend named Jenna. They’ve been friends even before you and Ian met. You know Jenna but aren’t close to her.
Jenna’s wife, Laura, passed away suddenly in March. Since then, Jenna has been staying at your house almost every day because she doesn’t want to be alone. You understand she needs support, but she’s been increasingly rude and possessive with Ian.
On your birthday weekend, you came home and found Jenna there. When you asked Ian about dinner plans, Jenna interrupted and said Ian couldn’t go out because she didn’t want to be alone. You suggested Jenna could stay at your house while you were out, but she rudely asked if you had any friends to go out with instead. This upset you, so you told Jenna to leave and not come back.
Ian supported your decision and helped Jenna leave. He said he would visit her later but backed your choice. Now you feel bad and wonder if you should have been more understanding or if Jenna should have been more respectful.
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This is such a good answer. I think those of us who have experienced this type of grief will maybe see Jenna’s actions slightly differently. Nobody should excuse it, but her wife passed away a couple of weeks ago. She doesn’t deserve to lose a good friend too, even if she was way out of line.
Tophnation164 writes:Why does everyone on Reddit jump to “she wants your husband”?????? Yes, she was out of line, but it’s probably due to the fact that she’s mourning her WIFE and is codependent on her friend. That level of grief is enough to make anyone a nasty person for the time being.
start_select writes:She was out of line but don’t go down the generic reddit response of “if a man and woman are close friends its because they are in love”.
Everyone always jumps to “he’s after your wife”, “she’s after your husband”.
It sure sounds like the friend is a lesbian and that she is in crisis. That doesn’t absolve her of guilt but it doesn’t mean she is trying to bang Ops husband to feel better about her dead wife
Zestyclose_Tree8660 writes:Wow. NTA. Nobody’s talking to me like that in my own home.
Disagree with people saying Jenna’s not an asshole here. Needing support and asking for it are fine, but she’s crossed the line being hostile towards her friend’s spouse. She got a well deserved GTFO. Good for Ian for backing his wife on this one.
lihzee writes:NTA. Not at all. Jenna is going through a huge loss, but that doesn’t give her the right to treat you poorly, particularly when it seems like you and your husband have been nothing but accommodating.
