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My husband and I recently got married. A week before our wedding, Jack and Hannah, who had eloped, asked if they could take wedding photos during our ceremony and reception. They wanted pictures to share with their future kids and decorate their home.
I said they could take photos, but only before or after our event because I didn’t want them in wedding attire while ours was going on.
On our wedding day, Jack and Hannah arrived dressed in full wedding gear with a photographer, despite my request. I asked them to change, but they refused, so the groomsmen asked them to leave.
Later, my mother said I should have let them stay since everyone knew them and it wouldn’t have caused confusion. I’m feeling guilty about ruining their chance for nice photos.
My husband and MOH think I did the right thing, but I’m wondering if I should apologize and cover their photographer’s costs.
AITA?
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My husband and I recently got married. A week before the wedding, Jack and Hannah asked if they could take wedding photos during our ceremony and reception. They had eloped and wanted pictures to share with their future kids and display in their home.
I agreed, but only if they took the photos before or after our event, as I didn’t want them in wedding attire during ours.
On the wedding day, Jack and Hannah showed up in wedding attire with a photographer, despite my request. I asked them to change, but they refused. The groomsmen ended up asking them to leave.
Afterward, my mother said I should have let them stay since everyone knew them and they wouldn’t have caused confusion. I feel bad for ruining their chance to have nice photos. My husband and MOH think I did the right thing, but I’m unsure if I should apologize and cover the cost of their photographer.
Let’s swiftly assess a handful of the top comments:
AITA for Banning My Brother and His Wife from Taking Photos at My Wedding?
OP says she feels bad because they “just wanted to have nice memories” but it’s not memories of their own wedding! They’re trying to co-opt OP’s wedding so they can pretend it was theirs. It’s ridiculously entitled.
She agreed that they shouldn’t have done it but that I could have let it slide since they were already here.
Uh, no? You explicitly told them no. She showed up to your wedding IN A WEDDING DRESS. You were right to kick them out. NTA
this is one of the more bizzare things I read on Reddit so far… a couple wants to come dressed as the wedding couple on a day of someone elses wedding and take photos that would look like it was their own wedding?! interesting… and no wonder they got kicked out. NTA
NTA.
I get it. They wanted to take pictures with your family. That’s borderline fine. But if they wanted the big wedding they should have invited people if possible. They are really big assholes for dressing like it was their wedding. Come on, you learn not to do that shit when you’re like 5 years old.
NTA
You did nothing wrong. Can’t believe someone really did that. Pictures from their actual wedding should be good enough for the future or they could always do a “recommitment” ceremony and take pictures. FFS, leave your wedding alone. That day is about YOU, not them. Their immaturity is showing.
