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I had planned to tell him I was pregnant on his upcoming birthday. He always dreamed of having a big family with at least five kids. While I wasn’t as enthusiastic about having children, I didn’t mind the idea. But when he ended things, I knew I didn’t want to have the baby. I didn’t want to co-parent or be a single mom. I have a good job, and maybe it’s selfish, but I didn’t care.
When he broke the news, I told him I was pregnant. He seemed upset, like he regretted his decision. He offered to split custody, but I didn’t respond. A few days later, I had an abortion. I felt it was necessary to be honest with him, as I didn’t want any further contact.
He called me after I texted him about the abortion, furious. He said I should have told him before making the decision. I felt selfish, but I knew having the baby would make me unhappy. The idea of raising a child with the man who broke my heart was unbearable.
I feel like a jerk for what I did. He’s the only one who knows about the abortion, not the pregnancy. I posted here because I needed to tell someone. Thank you to everyone offering advice and support. I won’t be updating or replying for a while. I need to take a break and avoid those trying to shame me for my decision.
I feel awful, so if anyone can message me with resources or support, I’d appreciate it. I’ll update you all when I can. I didn’t get the abortion out of spite or revenge. I don’t blame the baby. I just need some validation from strangers because I feel so alone. Thanks for understanding.
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He wanted kids. He decided to get a new GF. He found out you were pregnant after getting his new GF. He then gets upset you didn’t consult him before ending the pregnancy? One he wanted but you didn’t? I’d have to say NTA. He set you up to be a single mother with him as a perpetual headache. I’m guessing he never consulted with you before getting his new GF.
And having that kid… 20 years he + gf + new mistress + new gf + etc etc would be in OP and kid’s lives. Absolutely nothing wrong with choosing yourself. As you say, fiance has no problem choosing himself.
I don’t understand why this isn’t completely black and white? Like, the boyfriend was clearly a piece of shit scumbag so why would even 1% of people agree with the boyfriend? This is like if a woman gets raped, and the rapist always wanted a kid, and then the rapist gets mad at the woman if she has an abortion. It would be absolutely insane to give birth to the child of someone who did something terrible, you would be ruining 18 years of your life just to “help pass on the genes” of a terrible person
