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AITA for Worrying About Losing My Travel Partners and Being Alone for 4 Days? What started as an amazing, relaxing two-week vacation throughout Europe has turned into a stressful nightmare.
I bought my tickets originally with my two girlfriends one of whom I’ve been very close to for years. Let’s call her Natalie. The other girl, Jenny, had plans to separate from us halfway through the trip for a concert in another country. Natalie and I agreed it was best (and safest) to stay together for the remainder of the trip. We booked hotels together, but they were only in Natalie’s name since I paid her in cash.
I’m now realizing this was a huge mistake. The day Jenny left, everything went downhill fast. I became ill and spent the last few days congested and coughing. Natalie couldn’t stand the sounds a sick person makes while sleeping, so she kept waking me up, telling me I was making noise all night. This resulted in no sleep for either of us and awkward tension the whole next day. We barely spoke, wouldn’t even sit next to each other on the trams, and generally felt uncomfortable.
Natalie insisted I buy medicine so she could sleep better, so I obliged and bought some cough and congestion medicine. I had a weird reaction to it and became super dizzy. I told her I was going back to our hotel to sleep it off. She didn’t want to come with me because it was still early evening, but she eventually decided to. When we got back, we didn’t speak at all, and she made it pretty clear she didn’t want to.
She continued to wake me up throughout the night, saying things like, “Gross. AcrossTheContinents, stop. Disgusting. So annoying.” She mocked me whenever I breathed too heavily. This morning, when I went to take a shower, she texted me from the other room to tell me I should stay back today and skip the two attractions we had tickets for. When I told her I didn’t want to lose my money and suggested we go separately because she was annoyed with me, she said, “Yeah, I don’t feel like being around your sickness all day.”
Tensions blew up, and I told her I wanted to be alone today. We’re obviously around each other too much and should take a break. She agreed and said I should try to get a different hotel when we get to our last destination. I told her maybe, and with the way she’d been acting, I was considering it anyway. She replied, telling me to “please do” and that she’d even refund me for the last night here if I got out sooner.
My biggest fear coming on this trip was being alone, but I literally could not stay with this girl for the remaining four days. I feel like a leper, someone she looks at as disgusting or a burden. Natalie told me she could “easily tell them it’s just her staying at the hotel” so my name would be taken off, which made me so angry I was shaking. I decided right then not to get screwed over and booked a last-minute hostel in our last destination, where I’ll be staying starting tomorrow.
Natalie is now saying I’ve ruined the trip and that she’s losing money by me staying by myself. I’m terrified, my family is freaking out, and I just spent the last ten minutes crying in a foreign Burger King bathroom. I’m so desperate to go home that I even looked into buying an earlier flight, but I can’t afford it.
My friendship with Natalie is over, and the rest of this trip will be spent alone, with strangers, in a place where I can’t speak the language. Help me stay sane and give me some tips on traveling alone.
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What began as a dream vacation in Europe has devolved into a stressful mess. I (22F) planned a two-week trip with two close friends, Natalie and Jenny. While Jenny had concert plans and left halfway through Natalie and I decided to stick together for the remainder of the trip. We booked hotels in Natalie’s name since I paid her in cash, which I now regret.
Soon after Jenny departed, I fell ill, battling congestion and a cough. Natalie, who has a low tolerance for noisy sleepers, couldn’t handle the sound of me coughing and kept waking me up. This led to sleepless nights and awkward tension between us. She even demanded I buy medicine to ease her discomfort, but it made me dizzy, leading to more friction.
Natalie’s irritation grew; she woke me repeatedly with insults and suggested I skip our planned attractions. When I proposed we split up for the day to avoid further conflict, she agreed and suggested I find a new hotel for our last destination. I booked a hostel last minute to avoid her and her harsh comments.
Now, Natalie is accusing me of ruining the trip and losing money due to my change of plans. I’m scared, my family is anxious, and I just cried in a foreign Burger King bathroom. My biggest fear of being alone has come true. I need advice on how to handle traveling solo and make the most of the next four days.
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well, I can tell you one thing, you do speak the language
well sort of, we all speak English.
head over to r/thenetherlands for our local subreddit. I’m sure there are a few student Redditors that have some free time that can help you out (school is just about done)
Montaron87 Writes:
There’s a saying: “If you can travel with people you can live with people.”
Traveling together tends to bring out the worst in some people and it leads to clashes like this. It sucks, but you’re simply not meant to be around each other for extended amounts of time.
As for how to spend the remaining days, look up the subreddit for the city you’re in, if you’re in a big city there’s usually daily stuff and events you can go to and hang out with people. If you happen to be in Amsterdam, I’d buy you a beer and show you around. If not, there’s bound to be a bunch of other cool redditors to hang out with.
