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AITA for Telling My Mom I am Not Proud of Her Nursing Career? I’m 17, and my mom, who’s 48, is a nurse. She’s been working a lot and we barely see each other. Three years ago, I broke my tooth and went to her hospital. I asked her to meet me, but she told me to go home after getting my tooth fixed since I could handle it.
I got upset and made a scene, which led to a big fight where I said she cared more about work than me.
Now, as I’m graduating and choosing my future, my mom wants me to become a nurse like her. I told her I’m not proud of her job and reminded her of when she didn’t help me.
She got really upset, and we argued. I went to my aunt’s house, and my dad, who doesn’t have legal rights over me, called asking me to apologize. My friends and aunt think I was too harsh.
So, AITA for not supporting my mom’s career and being harsh?
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I’m 17, and my 48-year-old mom is a nurse. She’s been working a lot, so we barely see each other.
Three years ago, I broke my tooth and went to her hospital. I asked her to meet me, but she told me to just go home after getting it fixed. I got upset, made a scene, and we had a big argument where I said she prioritized work over me.
Now, as I’m graduating, my mom wants me to become a nurse too. I told her I’m not proud of her job and reminded her of the time she didn’t help me.
We argued, and I went to my aunt’s house. My dad, who doesn’t have legal rights over me, called asking me to apologize. My aunt and friends think I was too harsh.
AITA for not supporting my mom’s career choice and being harsh about it?
NTA. I AM A NURSE!!! If something were to happen to my child and especially if I’m in the same hospital I would absolutely make sure my child was ok. Doesn’t matter how old or capable that child is. So for those of you bringing that up,shame on you!!! I am a mother first and that’s an expectation of being a mother. OP, do NOT feel obligated to follow in her footsteps. Nursing is downright AWFUL some days. I wouldn’t wish this profession on my child unless they were absolutely called to do so by their heart. Especially if you don’t like the person this profession has turned your mother into, you certainly have a right to tell her that as well.
happy70RN writes:I came here to say this exact thing! Being a nurse sucks some days and is very physically demanding. Life is too short to go into a job you don’t want to do.
Your mom not being a round when you broke your tooth is probably only one of many issues. 14 and in the ED by oneself is scary an your parent should be there with you. I’m not even sure the pandemic started when the tooth incident occurred. We are just in the beginning of the 3rd year of it.
Euphoric-Round-5182 writes:NTA. Not. At. All. Ignore the ignorant assholes saying otherwise.
A broken tooth is absolutely a medical emergency. A 14 year old in hospital is an emergency that requires the presence of a parent.
My 18 year old kid fell and broke his front teeth while skiing last winter. You bet your bottom dollar I was the first person he called, I picked him up and took him directly to hospital. We called his dad from the treatment room, who left work two hours away to come be with him.
That’s just what you DO when you’re a mum or a dad.
You’re a hurt kid striking out like a hurt kid. I wish i could give you a hug.
-my-cabbages writes:NTA – I don’t understand the Y T A votes. She was 14 (a child), and she had to take herself to hospital, alone, because her only parent didn’t prioritize their own child over work. Even when she got to hospital, her mother couldn’t be bothered to check on her.
Having a job which helps save lives does not excuse being a shitty parent.
OP was neglected in a time of need, and she can damn-well hold a grudge as long as she wants
newbeginingshey writes:NTA but your word choice was harsh. I don’t think you’re the AH because you legitimately are upset that you had to go through a scary medical event alone at 14. She didn’t even come to see you, which is all you asked for. While her profession may be noble and have its benefits, it also contributed to her being unavailable to you in key moments, so your resentment is understandable.
You could clarify what you’re upset about – what she missed, rather than her profession – and also acknowledge you understand she was recommending a path of financial stability for you and you appreciate where that’s coming from.
