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AITA for Ignoring a Coworker Upset About Not Being Invited? I work in a small remote office with five colleagues and our boss. One coworker is especially toxic—mean, rude, condescending, and generally unpleasant.
Yesterday was a coworker’s 30th birthday, and we celebrated at a painting studio where we all followed an instructor. I only learned this morning that the toxic coworker wasn’t invited.
She was extremely hostile all day—throwing insults, pointing out old mistakes, and even calling the birthday celebrant “fat” (despite her size being 300 pounds and 5’5”). She also snapped at me for not picking up the phone quickly enough.
When she finally asked why she wasn’t included in the party, I suggested she ask the birthday girl herself. I also reminded her that if she was upset about not being invited, her poor behavior toward everyone didn’t justify her actions.
The birthday girl eventually told her, “You’re unpleasant and difficult to be around, which is why you weren’t invited.”
Since then, she’s been quiet, which is a welcome change.
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In a small remote office with just five employees and their boss, one colleague stands out for her particularly toxic behavior she is consistently mean, rude, condescending, and generally unpleasant.
Recently, the team celebrated a coworker’s 30th birthday at a painting studio, where everyone followed an instructor to create their own paintings. It wasn’t until the next day that it became clear this toxic coworker had not been invited.
Throughout the day, her hostility was evident she made sharp comments, brought up old mistakes, and even insulted the birthday celebrant, calling her “fat” despite her own considerable size (300 pounds and 5’5”). Additionally, she chastised another colleague for not answering the phone promptly.
When she inquired about the reason for her exclusion from the party, she was advised to speak directly to the birthday girl. It was also made clear that her poor behavior didn’t entitle her to better treatment.
Ultimately, the birthday celebrant confronted her, stating, “You’re mean and hard to be around, and that’s why you weren’t invited.
Since that confrontation, the toxic colleague has been unusually quiet, which has been a welcome change for everyone involved.
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She was like a pit viper all morning
As an avid reptile enthusiast, I must quibble with your characterization of pit vipers here.
Pit vipers are typically shy & reclusive creatures- preferring to avoid conflict and humans in general.
Your co-worker told the entitled one the truth, but I doubt anything will change. I’m glad she was honest.
Entitled Bitch got a dose of Instant Karma!!!!
CatGooseChook Writes:
Sounds like my ex Dad. I actually had the opportunity to speak with several people who he went to school with some years ago and their descriptions of him were basically a dumber less devious Eric Cartman. He wasn’t much better when he was older. Made me realise that while most people get older, too many do not become adults.
De-railled Writes:
Lol, this felt like a kid not being invited to a bday party and mommy getting all offended.
People are not obligated to invite everyone they know to THEIR party, even if you do nothing wrong towards them…or you believe they are your office besties.
Sure, you can feel hurt but being an adult means controlling your emotions and handling the situation with maturity, not throwing a temper tantrum.
