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AITA for How I Handled Drama on the Golf Course? I recently had a wild experience on a public golf course (a $50 round, nothing special) during a weekday afternoon. I was paired with a charming 75-year-old who was showing me up, and things took a turn for the worse at the 13th tee.
While waiting for the group ahead to finish on the fairway and approach the green so we could tee off, a threesome suddenly arrived and started SHOUTING at my playing partner. At first, I thought it might be a prank because their reaction was so over-the-top, but they were completely serious.
So, what went down?
The threesome believed we had cut them off, but that wasn’t the case. There were two groups behind us. The group in front of them had already finished after the 12th hole. When they saw us at the tee box, they jumped to the conclusion that we had cut them off. Despite us showing our receipts (which proved we were there 35 minutes earlier) and explaining that the group ahead of us was not the same as the one they were behind, they refused to calm down. They kept throwing insults at me and my playing partner.
Their frustration didn’t stop there. They started claiming we were playing too slowly, even though we were keeping pace with the foursome ahead of us. We had completed 12 holes in just over 2 hours. I tried talking to the quieter member of their group, but he just dismissively called us liars.
At that point, I was done with their nonsense. I told them all to “fuck off,” teed off and suggested we could resolve this in the clubhouse after our round. An employee from the course, who was also playing, came over to investigate. I quickly explained the situation, showed my receipt, and then walked to my ball. I could see them continuing to berate the employee while we were on the green.
After finishing our round, I spoke with the clubhouse manager, who informed me that the aggressive group had been banned from the course. As I was leaving, I saw them again and, regrettably, gave them a rude gesture.
What’s the best way to deal with rude or aggressive players on the course? Should you call the clubhouse for intervention, ignore them, and keep playing, or handle it differently?
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I had a challenging day at a public golf course recently (a $50 round, pretty basic) during a weekday afternoon. I was teamed up with a delightful 75-year-old who was outplaying me, and things took a dramatic turn at the 13th tee.
While waiting for the group ahead to clear the fairway so we could tee off, a threesome unexpectedly arrived and began SHOUTING at my playing partner. At first, I thought it might be a prank because their reaction seemed so exaggerated, but they were completely serious.
Here’s what unfolded:
The threesome believed we had cut in front of them, though we hadn’t. They were actually two groups behind us. The group ahead of them had already left after the 12th hole. When they saw us at the tee box, they jumped to the conclusion that we had cut them off. Even after we showed our receipts (which proved our earlier time by 35 minutes) and clarified that the group ahead of us was different from the one they were behind, they wouldn’t back down. They continued to hurl insults at both me and my playing partner.
Their frustration grew worse, and they started accusing us of playing too slowly, despite us maintaining pace with the group ahead. We had completed 12 holes in just over 2 hours. I tried to reason with the quieter member of their group, but he dismissively called us liars.
At that point, I lost patience. I told them to “fuck off,” teed off, and suggested we could resolve the issue in the clubhouse after our round. An employee from the course, who happened to be playing, came over to assess the situation. I quickly explained what happened, showed my receipt, and then moved on to my ball. I saw them continuing to argue with the employee from the green.
After the round, I spoke with the clubhouse manager, who informed me that the aggressive group had been banned from the course. As I was leaving, I saw them again and, regrettably, gave them a rude gesture.
What’s the best approach when faced with rude or aggressive players on the course? Should you call the clubhouse for help, ignore them and continue playing, or handle it differently?
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headaches_r_us Writes:
Funny story – I was arrested in NYC once, only arrest I’ve ever had so I really had no baseline for what jail was like.
A guy tried to take the watch I was wearing off my wrist and I wouldn’t let him. Proceeded to hit me in the jaw, but I took it clean. He swung again and I didn’t do anything while I was thinking “I’ll get in more trouble if I fight,” amongst other shocking thoughts one has when in central bookings in manhattan for the first time in their life.
Point is, it’s so easy to wind up in jail from the outside when it comes to physical assault. But on the inside, have fun and let your rage fly, to a certain extent. I’ll never forget silly ole me thinking I was looking out for me by taking two full swings to the jaw and not responding with my own.
Same. Never seen this in 30 years of golfing.
Worst I had was 2 drunk guys accused me of stealing their ball after they almost hit us on a tee box 60 yards from the green they were aiming at. To be fair, I did steal their ball, but they didn’t yell 4 so it was even IMO.
good on the course for blacklisting them. i was at a muni course for the first time in a while yesterday, and as i waited to chip onto 16, some idiots on the 18th fairway (about 40 yards away) were screaming at the people in front of them. and they literally had about a half dozen balls each on the ground in front of them, hitting (poorly) into the group in front of them. don’t think i’ll be coming back for a while.
overlyattachedbf Writes:
Just rip off your shirt, flex your guns and yell, “If you want to test god, come and get it shitstack!#!
Works well for busybody types, too.
In the evenings I used to hit those “almost golf” golf balls at a multi-purpose field behind a school near my house. (A place for kids to have recess and field day during the school day. It wasn’t a sports field.) I was getting more out of that practice than going to the range, and it was a lot less expensive. There were some houses facing the field and some busybody came in hot saying I had to leave because I was trespassing and tearing up the field. I told her it was public property open for me to use in the evenings and I showed her the small mat I was using to avoid tearing up the grass and the harmless golf balls. That made no difference, and she kept yelling at me, so I told her to call the police and just kept repeating that while she kept yelling and I kept hitting more golf balls. She went inside and never called the police. A few days later, I drove by and saw her in the field with her dog. It occurred to me that she was used to taking her dog to the field whenever she wanted and I was getting in her way, so she was trying to run me off. It likely also explained some of the dog poo I had to avoid while using the field.
