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AITA for Declining to Remove My Body Hair for My Uncle Wedding? My uncle’s wedding is tomorrow, and I’m feeling stressed. I didn’t want to go because I don’t like parties and don’t know my uncle well, but my mom insisted, saying all the other women would have their daughters there, so I agreed.
She bought me two dresses, even though I didn’t want them, and said I had to wear makeup, which I find uncomfortable and itchy. I begged her not to make me wear it, and she agreed. Now, she’s insisting I get rid of my body hair. She said I could either get it waxed (a professional is coming to our house) or just shave it.
I dislike the pressure to remove body hair. Waxing was so painful for me in the past that I cried, and I ended up with lumps on my skin. Shaving also makes my skin feel itchy and prickly. I don’t mind my body hair and don’t think it’s worth the discomfort to remove it.
When I told my mom I didn’t want to remove my body hair, she said people would judge me and think I looked like a man. I told her they should mind their own business.
We had a heated argument, and I told her she was asking a lot from me since I already didn’t want to be at the wedding and disliked social gatherings, makeup, and hair removal. She said “Okay, fine,” but I feel like that’s not really how she feels.
I feel bad because my mom wants to keep up a good image and has worked hard on removing her body hair. She’s worried about judgment from others. I feel like I’m being selfish for not considering her feelings, but she’s not considering how uncomfortable I am.
Update: After thinking it over, I decided to shave my body hair to avoid more conflict and keep my mom from being judged. I’m disappointed with how things turned out and plan to avoid social gatherings with her in the future.
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My uncle’s wedding is tomorrow, and I’m feeling really stressed about it. I didn’t want to go in the first place because I don’t like parties and don’t know my uncle well. My mom insisted that I attend, saying all the other women will have their daughters there, so I agreed.
She bought me two dresses, even though I didn’t want them, and insisted that I wear makeup, which I find uncomfortable and itchy. I begged her not to make me wear it, and she agreed. But now she’s telling me I need to get rid of my body hair. She said I could either get it waxed (a professional is coming to our home) or just shave it.
I really dislike the pressure to remove body hair. I’ve had a bad experience with waxing before—it was so painful that I cried, and I ended up with lumps on my skin. Shaving also makes me uncomfortable; my skin feels prickly and itchy afterward. I don’t mind my body hair and don’t think it’s worth the discomfort to remove it.
When I told my mom I didn’t want to get rid of my body hair, she said people would judge me and think I look like a man. I told her they should mind their own business.
We ended up having a heated argument, and I told her that she’s asking a lot from me, considering I already don’t want to be at the wedding, dislike social gatherings, makeup, and hair removal. She said “okay, fine,” but I feel like that’s not really how she feels.
I feel bad because my mom wants to keep up a good image, and she’s gone through a lot to remove her own body hair. She’s worried people will judge both me and her. I feel like I’m being selfish for not considering her feelings, but at the same time, she’s not considering how uncomfortable I am.
Update: After thinking it over, I decided to shave my body hair to avoid further conflict and to keep my mom from being judged. I’m disappointed about how things turned out, and I’m not planning to attend any more social gatherings with her in the future.
Let’s find out: AITA for Declining to Remove My Body Hair for My Uncle Wedding?
NTA.
“She said that everyone will judge me and say that I look like a man. I told her that they should mind their own business.”
If I was your mother, I’d be proud that you didn’t compromise yourself to please others. Because with that confidence, those people and those things don’t even matter.
Low_Cricket4737 writes:Yes! No see trought tights (or pantyhose idk the right word). I mean like winter tights could be really pretty and good (also you can say that you wear them because of cold – if your mother would comment on it).
But again there is no problem with body hair…man have them too and what are theydoing with them? Not waxing and shaving sooo
loveacrumpet writes:NTA. It’s really sad that body hair on women is still seen as this taboo and embarrassing when it’s perfectly natural. It’s your body, don’t let anyone pressure you into doing something you’re not comfortable with. I’m impressed that you are so happy and confident in your natural body and don’t feel the need to shave/wax for anyone else’s benefit.
Dreamoftime writes:I’m gonna say NAH.
You’re NTA because you’re right, shaving sucks lol. Also bodily autonomy as others are saying (your hair your choice). Being comfortable in your own skin is a superpower so its awesome that you don’t care what they all think.
Your Mother is NTA also because the last thing a parent wants is for their child to be ridiculed, judged, bullied, etc. I believe she’s acting in what she believes is your best interest based on the social environment you will be subjected to at the wedding.
It would be nice if she just didnt make you go, but I don’t think she’s out of line asking you to attend.
Dreamoftime writes:I’m gonna say NAH.
You’re NTA because you’re right, shaving sucks lol. Also bodily autonomy as others are saying (your hair your choice). Being comfortable in your own skin is a superpower so its awesome that you don’t care what they all think.
Your Mother is NTA also because the last thing a parent wants is for their child to be ridiculed, judged, bullied, etc. I believe she’s acting in what she believes is your best interest based on the social environment you will be subjected to at the wedding.
It would be nice if she just didnt make you go, but I don’t think she’s out of line asking you to attend.
Big__Bang writes:Tell her its better for her you dont go than silly people be judgemental. Tell her to say you have covid or a migraine or bad stomach etc.
Or dont wear a dress and find something long to the floor or trousers. I’ve bought long dresses for that exact reason to just hide it all. It might be too late or maybe she can give you some money to go find something
