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I (29F) was getting married to my now-husband (32M), and my mother-in-law (59F) was invited to the wedding. She kept trying to choose a wedding dress for me even though I had already picked one. She also wanted my husband to get a big, fancy cake, but we had already planned everything.
The wedding went well. The food and service were great, and we had an artist draw us kissing. I saw that my mother-in-law was wearing a white dress, which bothered me but wasn’t a huge deal.
When it was time for photos, I wanted a picture with my husband alone. But my mother-in-law walked into the photo. I politely asked her to step aside so we could take a photo alone first, but she didn’t listen, and my husband didn’t say anything.
Later, I edited her out of one of our photos and posted it on Instagram. She texted me, saying I was disrespectful and that family should come first. I told her it was my wedding and I just wanted a photo with my husband alone. Now my husband is upset with me and says I’m being dramatic. AITA?
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I (29F) got married, and my mother-in-law (59F) was there. She kept trying to pick my dress and a fancy cake, even though we had everything planned.
At the wedding, she wore a white dress, which was a bit upsetting but not a big deal.
During photo time, I wanted a picture with my husband (32M) alone, but my mother-in-law walked into the shot. I asked her nicely to step aside, but she didn’t move, and my husband didn’t intervene.
I edited her out of the photo and posted it online. She said I was disrespectful and that family should come first. My husband thinks I’m being dramatic. AITA?
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Yes, I would say so. He cancels a lot of plans because his mother wants to call him.
By ‘single photo’ I mean a photo with the professional photographer we hired. He took photos of the ceremony and was supposed to give us a final photo for the end, but was unable to get it without my MIL. There are other photos taken by other guests or my family members, but it was not ‘professionally done’ and I wanted one of us(because I paid for it).
NTA…Your now husband should have told his mother to take a hike. He also should have told her to go change into another colour. You now know how your husband is going to react throughout this marriage. You’ve got some decisions to make.
Good grief, woman! Have some self-respect and get out. Are you so desperate for a husband that you’re willing to play second fiddle to his mommy for the rest of your life?
You’ve been shown very clearly what your position will be in your husband’s life. Either take steps to get out of there, or just roll over and go with the flow. I hope you decide to choose yourself.
NTA at all. Husband should have had your back.
At weddings, there are photos with the new couple only, photos with each partners’ parents and new couple, photos with siblings, with grandparents. An entire laundry list. MIL doesn’t get to be in all of them.
NTA but your issue here is your husband, not your MIL. It’s his job to manage his family and he thinks you not wanting to take a couples photo – at your wedding – with your mother in law – makes you “dramatic”. Good luck with that for the rest of your life.
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